How Humor Is Used In Romance




Importance of Humor In Relationships

  • Men and women highly appreciate humor in a mate about equally.
  • Males tend to use humor to raise their status and compete with other men.
  • Women use humor to reinforce relationships with both women friends and men.

Learn important research discoveries below:

Importance of Humor In Relationships

Humor researchers agree that both men and women highly appreciate humor in a mate about equally. However, men and women expresses humor differently. Males tend to use humor to compete with other men and raise their own status. Women tend to use humor to bond with others and make others feel good.

Man and woman dancing and laughing Women use humor to reinforce relationships with both women friends and men. Women's jokes are most likely to support and complement indirectly. They frequently use humor to bond with other women and smooth out any differences.



A woman's humor with a man she likes will be flirtatious and complementary, appealing to his ego. Jokes and laughter will reinforce his self-worth and imagined high status.

Humor Used As A Weapon

Both men and women may use humor as a way of making indirect complaints about the other. This is a common pattern of long-time married couples. Over the years, petty annoyances are often aired publicly, disguised as humorous comments about the other partner.

A man's humor is often used with a woman to compete for her attention by calling attention to himself in some indirect way. Men are often in competition for a woman when in company of other men and women. In such a case, humor may be used as a brutal weapon used to jockey for a higher status than the other men. Humor in such situations often turns ugly with hurtful practical jokes, unflattering nicknames, and put-downs intended to lower the status of the other men.


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Here are a few examples of men making fun of women:

Men laughing

Women Making Fun of Men Jokes:

Women laughing

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